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Emotional Literacy of the Heart

by Catherine DeAngelis

“The moment a little boy is concerned with which is a Jay and which is a Sparrow, he can no longer see the birds or hear them sing.”   Eric Berne

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Emotional Literacy is a serious concern today. Being able to recognize, understand and effectively express emotions are a responsible part of learning life skills. Like we learn to manage relationships, work, finances, physical health and spiritual growth, human emotion is just as relevant. Understanding emotions are vital and can overwhelm to comfort us at various times in either a negative or in a positive way.

Emotional health is a critical part of everyone’s well-being. Knowing our emotions are key to success in life. If we want to make a life filled with wholesome well-being, joyousness and peace — at any age it is important to know them, and to know how to manage them.

Research proves many concerns of modern society may result in people being unable to understand and appropriately express emotion. The freedom that comes from being emotionally literate is being able to own it.

The technological world has grown exponentially and moving at a speed greater than ever been seen before in human history. Emotional literacy is just as excruciatingly a vital preventive tool. And when well understood, it can solve various social ills from violence, abuse, illness, dysfunctional relationships, and societal conflicts.

Since the 1960s, a world of experts have exploded with curiosity in forming opinions to suggested disciplines and modalities around emotional intelligence.

Emotional literacy expert, Claude Steiner, PhD in his bookEmotional Literacy with Heart“Emotional Literacy; Intelligence with a Heart,” says if you practice the three emotional strategies discussed in his book—opening the heart, surveying the emotional landscape, and taking responsibility—you will see dramatic changes in your emotional awareness, attitude, and in particular, Steiner writes you will learn:

  • “How to know what you want and what you feel; how to be truthful about your emotions; how to pursue fulfillment of your emotional needs.
  • How to manage your emotions creatively; when to hold back and when to express your feelings.
  • How to deal with emotional numbness or turmoil.
  • How to apply your knowledge of emotions at work, at home, in school, in social groups, and “on the street” to improve and deepen your relationships and forge long-lasting, honest connections with people.
  • How to practice a love-centered approach to personal power in a society that is moving in the direction of mistrust, loneliness, anxiety, and depression.”

We’ve come a long way from IQ being the only standard form for determining human excellence!

Steiner professes he is not an intellectual expert. And, he shares how Research leads us into the wrong direction to prove happiness doesn’t just come from having a high IQ.  For example, what he says is if we have a high IQ (intelligence quotient), it’s more likely we will do well in school and become productive, successful, and a good learner. Not only that, he claims, with a high IQ, we are told we’ll probably have a long life and good health.

In spite of the resistance shown in some of the world’s largest corporations, employers continue to battle it out to hire people with the highest IQ. However, Emotional Intelligence is ringing louder and louder at the boardroom tables forcing an arena of intelligentsia to listen up!

Emotional Intelligence, such as optimism, working with others, and empathy or compassion, are on the top 10 for ‘will hire,’ by employers today.

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For the inquiring intellects, you’ll discover Emotional Intelligence borrows from other areas of behavioural, emotional and communications theories from Albert Ellis to Alfred Adler.

Steiner’s mentor is Eric Berne, Canadian-born psychiatrist known as creator of Transactional Analysis, and author of Games People Play. Berne brought us the concept of ego states to explain how humans are and how we relate to others and ways we think, feel and behave — derived from our states: “PAC: parent, adult, and child.”

Steiner welcomes Daniel Goleman’s insight on Emotional Intelligence to prove having emotional insight is as key to success as a high IQ. Not only that, he shows that you need emotional intelligence to live a “good life”—one that allows you to enjoy the riches of the spirit. To live well, he says, you need not only a high IQ but a high EQ (emotional quotient).

Some of us were taught as a child that talking about feelings or emotions were a sign of weakness. What are you feeling and what does that mean?  We learn to turn feelings off, and why?  “Buck up, boys and girls don’t cry, toughen up – ah stop being a sissy.”  Do any of these remind you of what is whirling around in your head?

We cannot have EQ or Emotional literacy if we don’t know how we feel, think and behave — our thoughts will drive our actions and our behaviours. Good emotional health is being aware of emotions, thoughts, feelings and behaviors, all part of working at keeping levels of stress in check. (APA).

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Take this EMOTIONAL AWARENESS QUIZ:

Please answer the questions either yes or no truthfully.

1.  Do you do any of these in excess e.g. drink, gamble, smoke, exercise, eat, have sex or engage in recreational drugs?  — Yes or No?

2.  Do you isolate yourself or feel like you do not belong or disconnected from others?  — Yes or No?

3. Do you feel sad all of the time and don’t know why? — Yes or No?

4. Do you get easily angry, impatient, intolerant or find yourself bullying others? — Yes or No?

5. Do find yourself catching up on years of crying over a loss – any loss? — Yes or No?

6. Do you walk around unaware of how to get beyond what the emotions inside of you are telling you? — Yes or No?

7. Do you think it is better to suppress, hold back emotions because it shows as a sign of weakness? — Yes or No?

8. Do you know how to name your emotions to help you better manage and control them? — Yes or No?

9. Do you know too little about your emotions, as something is bothering you yet don’t know what to do? Yes or No?

10. Do you act happy all of the time when you are anxious, scared, lonely, discouraged? — Yes or No?

RESULTS: If you answer yes to 3 or more of these questions and no to all of the others, it is likely you are unaware of emotions. These emotions that are not brought forth from the inside out likely hold you back. Withheld emotions can impede health, and can hinder you from receiving the fulfillment you need to reach your goals and enjoy life to its utmost.

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MoodGYM is an interactive website based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Interpersonal Therapy, which can be used for helping to develop good coping skills for the future or help you look at mood concerns.

What is CBT?

Emotions, Thoughts, Feelings & Actions

CBT

  • CBT is a psychotherapeutic approach (a talking therapy)
  • Helps individuals deal with emotions in a healthy way as well as address mental health concerns.
  • How we think about things determines a large degree on what we experience.
  • Errors happen in thinking.
  • Some automatic thoughts may be true, but many are not true, or have just a grain of truth.

E.g. Anger is linked to a perception of damage & hurt and to a belief that rules and expectations
have been violated.

MoodGYM consists of interactive modules which are delivered in a specific order. The modules are: feelings, thoughts, unwarping, de-stressing, and relationships. At the end of each module you can apply the material to your own circumstances through a series of activities.  

Enter a world of discovery in getting to know yourself.  Watch for MoodGym updates and go here if you wish to give it a try:  http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome.

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Nature’s Emotions

by Catherine DeAngelisby Catherine DeAngelis Out of Pocket Emotions

“But you see, life is not like that at all; life is not permanent.

Like the leaves that fall from a tree, all things are impermanent,
nothing endures; there is always change and death. 

Have you ever noticed a tree standing naked against the sky, how beautiful it is?

All its branches are outlined, and in its nakedness there is a poem, there is a song.

Every leaf is gone and it is waiting for the spring.

When the spring comes, it again fills the tree with the music of many leaves,

which in due season fall and are blown away.

And this is the way of life.”

– The Krishnamurti Reader – Part II to Youth (p.143)

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Photos of trees taken in moments of stillness and captured by Catherine DeAngelis poetically described as Nature’s Emotions at work while on local walks throughout the year in Toronto, Ontario, Canada — inspired to share Krishnamurti’s reflections to learn more about the benefits of meditative moments and the importance of standing still.

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Love’s Emotions

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Romeo and Juliet painted 1867 by Ford Madow Brown (1821-93), Whiteworth Art Gallery, The University of Manchester UK

by Catherine DeAngelis

“Love is heavy and light, bright and dark, hot and cold, sick and healthy, asleep and awake – it’s everything except what it is!”


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Oh that William Shakespeare certainly had something going on. And then present day researchers have something to say about it!

Were we taught life skills and love’s human emotions and conflict through Shakespeare especially to crave love so much to the point that we would die for it?

From the 17th to the 21st Century what are we teaching youth about human emotion and conflict and is it real?

Easy as it is to want to analyse Shakespeare’s poems and sonnets or plays like Hamlet or Macbeth and cite the omnipotent “to be or not to be,”  “The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune,”  and “To-morrow, and to-morrow, and to-morrow.”

Shakespeare  revolutionized  human emotion and conflict simply by his dramatics, words and passion he weaved into his works. He brought to us the “why do we crave love so much, even to the point that we would die for it?”

Refraining from refuting scholars who have studied the works of Shakespeare indelibly, let us hugely celebrate the high school principals and teachers who year after year bring this mysterious Literary King into a teen’s mind and heart. They are deserving for making it part of a youth’s coming of age while trying to spring forward a sneak peek at the understanding of the complexities of love and human emotions.

How many recall the passionate teacher, provoked by an early morning’s lesson on Romeo and Juliet, “O! she doth teach the torches to burn bright” – as you frightfully sat, still unawake and withdrawn at your desk?  The teacher marched forward and stopped and stared while she bellowed “what does love mean TO YOU?”

Love, as twisted and confusing as the English language is, is diversely described as:

“deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and concern toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.  An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.  A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.  An expression of one’s affection.  A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.” (freedictionary.com)

Of course, is this the forum to argue if  Shakespeare should or should not be on the curriculum or address the impact of Shakespeare’s passion since the 17th century where his breath of his own personal love of man may be viewed differently now than it did back then.

“Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, and therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.” (A Midsummer Night’s Dream)

Let’s marshall forward to the 21st century where our view of love may be focused more around what many Psychologists report. It can take between 90 seconds and 4 minutes to decide if you fancy someone. And further they prove it has little to do with what is said, rather than 55% is through body language, 38% is the tone and speed of your voice, only 7% is through what we say. Scientists who love to investigate the power of ruling out something discovered there are 3 phases to falling in love because of how our hormones respond to the process: stage 1 – lust, stage 2 – attraction and stage 3-attachment.

Love  has lots to do with biochemistry.  Helen Fisher, PhD  is Biological Anthropologist and a Research Professor and member of the Center for Human Evolution Studies in the Department of Anthropology, Rutgers University and Chief Scientific Advisor to the Internet dating site, Chemistry.com, a division of Match.com.

We can only imagine Shakespeare walked the streets and relied on the day-to-day passions of his life’s loves.  However, Fisher’s life’s love is to conduct extensive research and has written five books on the evolution and future of human sex, love, marriage, gender differences in the brain and how our personality type shapes who we are and who we love.

Like Shakespeare, Fisher addresses the “need ” of  “why do we crave love so much, even to the point that we would die for it?”  She wants you to learn more about our very real, very physical need for romantic love.  She took her research team and looked at MRIs of people and studied them while in and out of love.

It’s okay to put Shakespeare aside and listen up, hear the less dramatic and engage youth, ourselves,  in understanding how love and all of its raw emotions can be expressed and understood more realistically and openly.


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 quotes this poem, as recited by an anonymous Kwakuitl Indian of Southern Alaska to a missionary in 1896, captures the excruciating pain of lost love. This poem is often recited by Helen Fisher, an expert on Romantic Love, in her talks.

Powerful Love Poem (1896)

Fire runs through my body with the pain of loving you
Pain runs through my body with the fires of my love for you
Sickness wanders my body with my love for you
Pain like a boil about to burst with my love for you
Consumed by the fire with my love for you
I remember what you said to me
I am thinking of your love for me
I am torn by your love for me
Pain and more pain
Where are you going with my love?
I am told you will go from here
I am told you will leave me here
My body is numb with grief
Remember what i have said, my love
Good bye, my love, good bye.~
 
The author acknowledges the diversity of our cultures and how the impact of identified and unidentified childhood traumas and stresses can affect love’s emotions and create conflict. Active measures need to be constantly assessed by educational leaders and politicians to ensure empathy and compassion are foremost in the understanding of how a brain loves with a pained heart.

Read more on the 10 Greatest Love Poems Ever Written as described by the American Society of Classical Poets and how English poetry has been in existence for at least 1,400 years.

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Feelings, Nothing More

by Catherine DeAngelis

“Feelings, nothing more than feelings
Trying to forget my feelings of love
Teardrops rolling down on my face
Trying to forget my feelings of love…”

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Many baby boomers may recall the 1975 record hit song by, born in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil, singer Morris Albert’s “Feelings.”

If you find yourself asking the same group of this generation or any of their off springs what happens when they hear this song playing – they might respond: “oh my gosh that dreadful, yucky emotional stuff – take it off please!

But then, no gender excluded, “the hopefuls, the romantics,” as we like to call them, those “feeling-type people,” too sensitive and emotional call this song a classic. These are the “ones’ who easily and honestly admit, they have no words to describe their own feelings as they listen to the melody, moved to sentiment, who  get a warm sensation in their body, to remind them of love passed, or a love that is waiting to sweep them off their feet some day.

Sappy perhaps or could it be that the feelings are personal emotions aroused like sadness, disappointment and life disillusionment?

Other words to describe feeling are emotion, passion, or sentiment. A feeling is personal and can be complex on how it is relayed through a human response and it surfaces, for some, unknowingly or knowingly, depending on the degree of self-awareness and acceptance in how to feel or not to feel. An excerpt from the on-line dictionary shows how diverse feeling can be:

  • overflow of powerful feelings
  • presence of excitement or agitation
  • passion that is intense, compelling emotion
  • sentiment like a thought or opinion arising from or influenced by emotion (to express yourself, easily, openly)
  • delicate, sensitive, or higher or more refined feelings

Expressing Our Feelings

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For some it is natural to share thoughts and feelings with people easily.

If we go back to our childhood, we may remember how easy it was to express our feelings freely, openly, most times without guilt or shame. It happens that when we grow up we control these feelings at a point where we find we mask feelings and wonder why our communication style blurs or terribly misunderstood in our relationships.

We can be more open with others and ourselves. The reward of open feelings is less tension and a healthy and relaxed state, emotionally and physically.

We can adapt to either feel our emotions or we don’t.  If we shut down feelings like sadness, disappointment and disillusionment, we close-off chances to welcome positive feelings such as joy, surprise, wonderment.

It is easy enough to numb our emotions, but somewhere in our body, we may face consequences by doing so. Suppressing feelings make us become overly stressed and debilitated, doing more harm than good. This disrupts relationships and tears down communication rather than build-up healthy, effective expression of feelings.

When we name our feelings and connect with emotions, the closer we become to others and especially to ourselves. Eventually we gain an ability to embrace stronger and more communicative relationships overall, at home, at work and socially.

How to Practice How You Feel?

A practice to get into as we connect our feelings and emotions to the experience in our bodies — we may become aware of our emotions by monitoring how we feel, talking about our feelings, and expressing ourselves physically.

Connect with where in your body you feel sensations, pain or any temperature change.  If you can easily describe what you are feeling inside your body you may find out varied feelings result in interesting sensations.  Some refer to these interesting sensations as blocked feelings, the ones that never come to the surface, instead leave us perhaps feeling fatigued, or sick.

What is key is to express what you really feel instead of e.g. putting on a happy grin, when disappointed, enraged or feeling weepy instead of cheerful.  Identifying with  feelings takes time; we are prone throughout our life to turn them off.   There are no bad or good ways to feel.  But we can learn to check-in, talk about it, or express it physically.

Imagine the drawing of the body below in your mind’s eye your own.  Throughout the next several weeks, keep track and try stopping every now and ask yourself “how do I feel?” Experience every body sensation from head to toe? If we had a migraine, it may be the result of an over demanding schedule or fear or anxiety over a pending presentation at work or upcoming gathering of friends or family.  If we can find a word to best explain what we are feeling, “I feel overwhelmed” or “I am afraid of failing,” talk about it, or express freely to someone who is trustworthy and listens without judgment. It is pretty likely we will feel lighter and better able to cope as we release those stifling emotions.

How Do I feel Today?
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Five basic questions to ask everyday!

  1. Do I need to understand my emotions?
  2. Who is the influence on how I feel?
  3. What are my needs?
  4. Am I experiencing any physiological changes?
  5. What 3 things do I need to express feelings freely?
    – self-awareness to know what is going on (e.g feeling joyful)
    – express out loud how I am feeling (e.g. I feel hurt )
    – release what I am feeling physically (e.g. walk, cry, talk to someone I trust)

The advantages to acknowledging and expressing feelings can motivate, guide, and give purpose and direction in life. We feel alive, stronger with a better sense of knowing self and others better. We find a lightness of being, “I know me, and this is how I feel today.”  This evolves to our being fully alive, highly functioning, emotionally brilliant, able to self-manage and be an openly human, human being.

 

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Emotional expression is the ultimate form of communication. If we suppress or deny emotions we are removing the tools that others need to understand, get to know, and like us. It denies us the chance to make our true self known…

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  • The more we UNDERSTAND our own emotions, the easier we will find it to deal with them when they arise.
  • Take time to EVALUATE emotional health.
  • Pay ATTENTION to thought streams or patterns in behaviors, especially negative ones – usually there is a story to be told.
  • Be ready to explore and RELEASE the emotions attached when they stand in the way of life goals.

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A Communication Style that Hurts!

by Catherine DeAngelis

Many of us may agree, among our realm of family, friends and colleagues, there is a degree of passive-aggressive behavior that may be affecting us.

“Passive-aggressive behavior, is only one of many styles in which we communicate. This pattern indirectly is expressing negative feelings instead of openly addressing them. There’s a disconnect between what a passive-aggressive person says and what he or she does. For a passive-aggressive person, true feelings are shared through actions, not words.” (Daniel K. Hall-Flavin, M.D, Mayo Clinic).

Dr. Hall-Flavin explains for example, a passive-aggressive person might appear to agree — perhaps even enthusiastically — with another person’s request. Rather than completing the task, however, he or she might express anger or resentment by missing deadlines, showing up late to meetings, making excuses or even working against the task.

The more we understand our emotions, the easier we will find it to deal with them when they arise.  This is true of passive-aggressive behavior, because emotions unacknowledged can bend our thinking and result in a non-flattering communication style. 

It is a personal responsibility and a vital life skill that we work at keeping in-check of ourselves to ensure we are communicating effectively, and with integrity.

“Becoming upset when you see someone doing something that you do, but don’t know that you do, is called “projection.” You always dislike in others what you don’t recognize, or don’t want to recognize, in yourself.” (Source: Gary Zukav)

We need to take time to evaluate our emotional health.  By paying attention to mind streams or patterns in behaviors, thoughts and feelings, especially the negative ones – usually we’ll find there is a story to be told.  By exploring and releasing the emotions attached, then these emotions will not get in our way and we are able to better manage them.

We have human being influences all of our lives from as early on as childbirth. We can choose to understand that we are connected to parent, adult and child behaviors, thoughts and feelings.  Without knowing, we copy patterns from our parents or parent figures. Our adult-self, thoughts and feelings are direct responses to what is happening to us here and now. We replay child behaviors, thoughts and feelings. For some of us, we find ourselves spiraling out of control wondering why we reacted in a negative way, rather than having responded in a positive light, only because of a trigger from a pattern surfacing from “parent, parent figures, adult, or child.” 

Psychology today, as well as ancient Hindu and Buddhist doctrines contend that, rather than mastering our emotions, could we learn to live in equilibrium with them, and use the energy that they give us.

Our Emotional Self

emotional expression is the ultimate form of communication – it can hurt or heal.

~ to suppress or deny emotions remove the tools that others need to understand, get to know, and like us. It denies us the chance to make our true selves known and to free ourselves from the layers of unspent emotional energy that cloud our relationships, both with ourselves and with others.

We can open ourselves up to intuition, to the natural release of energy – both positive and negative – and to self-awareness.  Personal growth is becoming aware of what we are feeling, and learning about ourselves from what we feel. We need to identify with our behaviors, thoughts and feelings to be assertive.

Our communication style is best when it is non-threatening, and we are able to maintain integrity in our dialogue with others. For example, saying “no” is not a weapon. Use of “I” statements and avoiding “you” statements will more likely get a positive rather than a negative response.

Instead of passive-aggressive behavior, we need to know and identify with our emotions.  Assertiveness is non-judging awareness of feelings – being assertive is standing up for our rights, while maintaining respect for the rights of others making us better skilled in our communication style and healing our relationships rather than hurting them.

How is your Emotional Awareness?

Below are some questions that you can ask yourself to evaluate your emotional side. To get an accurate result, answer the questions honestly.

1.       Can you tell others how you are feeling? This does not mean coming out with a simple, “I am sad,” or “I am happy,” response. It means being able to express your feelings at any time without being prodded.
 __ Yes    __No
2.       Do you exhibit signs of stress?
__ Yes    __No
3.       Do you regularly feel listless or withdrawn?
__ Yes    __No
4.       Do you laugh less than you use to?
__ Yes    __No
5.       Do you smile or show delight easily?
__ Yes    __No
6.       Do you become frustrated easily, and want to give up?
__ Yes    __No
7.       Do you push yourself too hard to be the best – best player, best friend, parent or winner of the prize?
__ Yes    __No
8.       Are you reluctant to take on new challenges that you would normally enjoy?
__ Yes    __No
9.       Do you get very upset if criticized or corrected – asked a silly question?
__ Yes    __No
10.   Do you put yourself down regularly?
__ Yes    __No
11.   Are you overly critical of others?
__ Yes    __No
12.   Do you try too hard to please people?
__ Yes    __No
13.   Are you needy or insecure, or cling to the known?
__ Yes    __No
14.   Do you suffer from inexplicable fears?
__ Yes    __No
15.   Do you need continual approval?
__ Yes    __No
16.   Do you boast?
__ Yes    __No
17.   Are you aggressive or attention-seeking?
__Yes    __No
18.   Are you impatient and unappreciative?
__Yes    __No
Results: If you have answered yes to the first question, and no to all of the others, you are likely be in balance and aware of your emotions. Also, chances are you have a mix of yes and no answers. Look at areas you answered yes. These show parts of yourself and your life that are dissatisfying. Example, if you boast, it is likely you feel insecure and need some attention.
(Source: Psychologies Today 12/10)

 

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Picasso and Edison Proved Success is to Never Give Up

by Catherine DeAngelis

Many of life’s failures are for those of us who do not realize how close we are to success and so we give up. We are usually in the race close to the finish line, but we don’t make it, because emotions like fear or trepidation get in the way, and the trophy becomes worthy of a win for someone else and not for us.

Whatever success means to us, authors and motivational speakers often tell us what Edison was known for, that he proved that he did not fail; instead he found 10,000 ways that won’t work.

Picasso’s paintings from his noted “Blue Period” may be quite famous now, but they were not so at the time that he painted them. He was depressed, poor, even couldn’t afford to buy canvas. Picasso found the light to rise above it, and drew on paper, and it is claimed that he may have had to burn some of his canvasses to keep warm.

Edison loved what he did, and created what he thought the world needed. His inventions included the incandescent light bulb, the phonograph, and the motion picture camera, and over 1,000 other patented items.   He explained, “Through all the years of experimenting and research, I never once made a discovery. I start where the last man left off. … All my work was deductive, and the results I achieved were those of invention pure and simple.” (Makers of the Modern World, Untermeyer, p.227). 

Action is the Key to Success

Picasso believed that “action is the foundational key to all success.” In spite of what may have been termed as a psychological depression or blue period, Picasso was a man of empathy that enriched his art form. He chose subject matter that reflected this time, street drunks, beggars and prostitutes, or old and sick people, often the themes shown in his paintings.

Stand on the Shoulders of Giants

Perhaps Edison’s or Picasso’s wise words may have come from ingratiating the father of the laws of gravity, Sir Isaac Newton, who shared with the world, “If I have seen further it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.”

Edison or Picasso may have found life to be difficult, but they became stupendous, either as businessmen or artists, they were creative, inventors at a space and time we are now fortunate to talk and learn about. They dominated the world with a love for their work, and wanted to share it with others. They dared to step outside of society’s restrictive confines of imagination, and went beyond human expectations.

We have plenty to learn from people who have travelled the road to success. We need to dig deep, research and explore so that we may find our mentors, maybe 2 or 3 or among the millions of influential advocates who have been written about ready to raise us up.

What provokes us to be motivated to get beyond our fear? We can ask, “What is it I need to do to help my self-worth, get me back onto the boat that leads me out of the dark waters and onto the horizon of never giving up?  I need to keep on going further — I owe it to myself.”

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Moods, Emotions and Feelings

by Catherine DeAngelis

Before we can begin to know what emotions or feelings we are experiencing in our daily lives, we need to be aware of our moods so that we may manage and shift them to affect positive outcomes within ourselves, our relationships, at home, work or at play.

Mood can be defined as frame of mind, disposition, bad or good temper and humor, sulk, having the doldrums. In an “atmosphere” mood creates a feeling, vibes, ambience, an aura in the air that may set a tone.

It is often difficult for us to identify our moods.  If you didn’t know this already, we have a variety of moods to choose from which we experience in a day and may change many times during it. A mood cannot be simply described as “bad” or “good” – it helps to be more specific. It may sound simple, but knowing the specific mood we are experiencing will better allow us to work on changing or easing it and as a result allow us to name the emotions and feelings.

Moods are identified as one descriptive word: anxious, mad, happy, hurt, disappointed, loving, proud, guilty, ashamed and afraid. For instance, if we were in a frightened mood – a high level of emotion/feeling may be I feel dreadful, panicky, terrified, horrified, petrified, and desperate. A moderate level of emotion/feeling may be I feel alarmed, jittery, strained, shaky, threatened. A low level of emotion/feeling may be I feel uneasy, tense, timid, anxious, nervous or puzzled.

How to identify Moods

Body – focus on any changes to your body, is there a heaviness throughout it that may show disappointment, depression, while tight shoulders may show fear and tension or vice versa, relaxed shoulders may show we are in a pleasant mood.

Identify emotions/feelings – it’s important that we not judge our mood, as many of us may not want to admit to certain feelings as a result of our mood (e.g. anxious, bored). Moods are just that moods. It is okay to be honest about the mood and name it by the feeling or emotion and simply deal with it truthfully.

Be clear – Avoid using vague terms to describe your mood and be exact in your description, for example a sad mood, say, I feel bummed out, down, disappointed.

Moods are different from thoughts – Try to know the difference between moods and thoughts – this takes practice. Psychology Today explains our mind is cluttered with thousands of thoughts, most of which are repetitive and circular. Thoughts may range from wondering what “other people feel about me” to ruminating on “what life is all about.”

Identify and rate our Moods – On a scale of 0 to 100 we can think about rating the intensity of our moods – the higher the rating – the higher the intensity. We can think about the situation, describe where we were, who we were with and what we were doing? By being specific we can find our mood(s) in one word.

Mood Disorders 

Canadian Mental Health Association reports that Mood disorders affect about 10% of the population. Everyone experiences “highs” and “lows” in life, but people with mood disorders experience them with greater intensity and for longer periods of time than most people.  One common mood disorder is Depression. A person with depression feels “very low.” Symptoms may include: feelings of hopelessness, changes in eating patterns, disturbed sleep, constant tiredness, an inability to have fun, and thoughts of death or suicide.

It helps to know ourselves well if we can identify our moods. As a result we have a better understanding of our emotions and feelings to allow us to enjoy a healthier mental state and create greater relationships all around.

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