Emotions may affect us in such a way that if they go unrecognized, they can either harm us causing 80% of disease to our body, or when they are understood, especially after a difficult ordeal, such as a car accident or trauma of another kind, they can heal us.
Many books have been written about Emotional Intelligence. Daniel Goleman, Ph.D. and author of the New York Times bestseller Emotional Intelligence and Social Intelligence has been authoring articles on the subject for years.
IQ matters, but Goleman argues it is only part of what makes people succeed in their work and personal lives and not necessary the most important part. In his books he addresses the role of emotions such as empathy, anger, humor, anxiety, optimism, melancholy and happiness play in all aspects of our lives. People can learn how to manage these emotions and have the power to transform relationships with emotions and through them the relationships we have with colleagues, family and friends.
Goleman Maps Out Emotional Intelligence
Being self-aware —the ability to recognize a feeling as it is happening is fundamental to emotional intelligence. If we are unable to notice our emotions, we can be overwhelmed and can flounder at the mercy of these strong feelings.
Managing emotions —the ability to maintain an even keel or bounce back quickly from life’s upsets builds on the preceding skill. We want to have a sense of control over our emotions so that we can deal with them appropriately.
Having self-motivation —underlying the accomplishment of any sort of goal is the ability to marshal our emotions in pursuit of that end. For creative tasks, focus and mastery (learning to delay gratification and stifle inappropriate desires) are important skills, and emotional control is essential.
Recognizing the emotions of others —”People” skills are based on a capacity for empathy and the ability to stay tuned to the emotions of others. Empathy kindles altruism and lies at the basis of professions that deal with caring for others, such as teaching, management, and the healing arts.
Handling relationships —Interpersonal effectiveness is dependent on our ability to manage the emotions of others. Brilliant projects and innovative insights are often never realized because of a lack of social competence and leadership skills.